So you want to talk about things you didn't learn in school (but definitely should have)
How to deal with difficult coworkers.
Some of us learned how to craft a resume in order to get the jobs we wanted. We were taught to choose our path of education and eventual employment - but we were never taught the importance of interpersonal skills or how to handle difficult coworkers.
Here are 9 useful strategies to deal with difficult coworkers:
- Try your best to be calm.
- Get some perspective from others.
- Understand the person's intentions.
- Let the person know where you're coming from.
- Try connecting with your colleagues on a personal level.
- Treat the person with respect.
- Focus on what can be actioned upon.
- If you've tried all the above and the person is still being difficult, simply ignore them the best you can.
- Utilize Human Resources, if that's available to you.
Source Business Insider
How to budget in real life.
If we learned how to budget at all in school, they certainly never shared the reality of $15 to your name in between paychecks and trying to figure out how to make that $15 cover your groceries for a week.
Luckily there are dozens of apps you can download to help you budget your finances.
But what the apps won't tell you when you're trying to make $15 stretch for a week:
- Pasta goes a long way. Get creative.
- Rice goes a long way. Get creative.
- Eating at home obviously saves $.
- Plan meals so you know what to shop for!
You do not have to go to college.
Yes, you read that correctly. You do not have to go to college to be successful in life. This might be shocking news considering so many high school guidance counselors would have you believe otherwise.
Consider the following options if you do not want to saddle yourself with a mountain of college debt:
- Take workshops
- Seek out internships.
Both of these avenues will help to shape your craft and neither one will leave you in debt that will make you feel as if you're drowning.
The basics of sex ed.
Did your gym teacher double as a sex ed teacher? For a lot of us, that was our reality! Dodgeball and then 'this is a drawing of an empty body, write in where the parts go."
Understanding a few basics principles of sex ed that they don't teach in school is important:
- Consent is the most important.
- Masturbation is normal. Understanding your own body is important to know what you like and dislike sexually.
- If you have a vagina, pee after sex to avoid a UTI.
- There are many forms of birth control. Find what's right for you.
- Not everyone is straight. Sex is not restricted to the heteronormative representation conveyed in most sex ed classes.
- Most people don't orgasm from penetration alone.
- Foreplay is crucial for good sex.
- The “pull out method” should never be used as your only method of birth control.
- Porn is unrealistic. Do not use porn as a foundation for what sex should look, sound, or feel like.
Source: WebMD, Planned Parenthood, Women's Health, Mayo Clinic, RAINN.org
How to say “NO” to shit that makes you miserable.
After high school, many of us know what a rhombus is but we have no idea how to set boundaries for ourselves. Not great.
Learning to say NO & set boundaries for yourself is one of the most important lessons to learn early on.
Understanding your own boundaries and comfort levels in various situations is the first step to determining which things you want to say “no” to. After this, the most important thing you can do when it comes to saying “no” is allowing yourself to do & say it in a way that feels safe and true to you.
How to deal with sexual harassment at work.
Document everything, regardless of what you're experiencing.
Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 ("Title VII") makes it illegal for employers to allow anyone to be sexually harassed at work by anyone else, regardless of sex, gender, or sexual orientation. Regardless of the type of harassment you are experiencing, it is important to document everything. Write down details such as:
- The date, time and location of the harassment, what happened, what was said and who witnessed the behavior.
- Keep copies or take screenshots of any relevant emails, texts, photos or social posts.
- Tell a trusted friend, family member or co-worker what happened and write down the details of those conversations. Not only can they provide support, but they may also be able to provide corroborating statements should you need them.
- Keep records related to your productivity and job performance and, if possible, review your performance report or personnel file. This is so you have evidence should your performance ever be disputed.
- Store all documentation outside your office or your work computer and make sure it's backed up in a safe place.
Source: New York Times
What to do when you can't afford health insurance.
Health insurance is expensive. There is simply no way around it. Even the worst health insurance plans are costly. According to data from the Census Bureau, roughly 30% of young people in the U.S. are uninsured.
First, do the basics:
- Eat healthy
- Get enough sleep
Know that walk-in clinics or urgent care centers offer a la carte services. Many have prices listed on their websites.
Take vitamins! All of the vitamins!
C! D! Magnesium! Calcium! Iron!
Your credit score can impact your life.
Your credit score can impact many things in your life, including but not limited to: Leasing a car; Buying a house; Getting a cell phone; Renting an apartment; Getting better interest rates on loans.
The following things can hurt your credit without you even realizing it:
- Maxing out your credit cards every month
- Closing old credit accounts you don't use
- Not checking your credit report annually
- Opening new credit cards too often
- Transferring balances between cards
- Forgetting to pay your bills on time
Source: Forbes, The Balance
The importance of taking care of your mental health.
Your mental health is just as important as your physical health.
Being healthy emotionally can promote productivity and effectiveness in all areas of our lives. It also plays an important part in the health of our relationships!
Make sure you take some time every single day to check in with yourself. How are you feeling today? Remember: there is nothing wrong with seeking therapy to help get our mental health in its healthiest shape.